When you're co-parenting in a high conflict situation, suffering is optional.
As the season of masking our true identities ends and the season of giving thanks approaches, I thought I'd get a head start for all of the things I'm so fucking grateful for this year. I usually start and end my days with gratitude, but thought I'd go a little extra for this season that's …
Recently, I was at the Korean market with my mom. As we were walking, I could see this Korean grandma rushing up from behind us with her full cart. Even with people in front of her, she didn't slow down, which caused her to run her cart into my mom. What happened next confused and …
I had dinner with my parents last night, sans kids since it's their dad's weekend. My parents and I have dinner regularly so I didn't think this one would be anything out of the ordinary. My parents and I have a fairly good relationship- we have great rapport, I know when to stop talking to …
I think I've inspired my mother, y'all. A friend of hers is visiting from out of town and the three of us were drinking wine the other night and chatting. You know, girl time. We were talking about my divorce since this was news to her friend. It was a very nice, open discussion and …
I attempted mediation a couple of days ago (our second time around). I had been mentally preparing for it for a week by going to a therapy session and by putting out positive energy regarding it. On the way to my attorney's office that morning, I practiced a 20 minute meditation on the commute (eyes …
I used to have this idea that perfectionism meant you have to be organized, have a clean house and work space, have your life and your family's life scheduled out, and have a great wardrobe to top it all off. I have friends like this and I would tell myself, "wow, she's so on top …
When going through hardships, it's easy to put ourselves in victim mode. What we are going through is really hard. We are often sad, angry, confused, and can feel very alone in our process. Sometimes, we have too much pride to tell people about our circumstances. "What will they think of me?" Sometimes we just …
My mom told me last night that the reason she finally accepted and was OK with the fact that I am getting divorced is because as she reflected upon her own marriage, she realized that living miserably was not the way to live (yes, she said miserably, which shows how obviously miserable I was). She …
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I had my first therapy session today. It was good. I like her. I feel like we are going to have many great sessions in the future and more breakthroughs are ahead. I even had one today. I wouldn't call it so much a breakthrough, but more of an "AHA" moment. Since today was an …
As I sit here in this moment, I feel truly grateful for this experience. I believe that without it, I would not become who I am meant to be. I'm not quite sure who that person is yet, but the fact that I have an opportunity to look within myself and have the willingness to …