When you're co-parenting in a high conflict situation, suffering is optional.
I used to believe in permanence. I used to believe in love that lasts forever and that the defining moment was the marriage ceremony. That was it. Marriage: the moment that sealed the deal. The moment that said we are stuck together for life no matter what happened. I was under the delusion that things …
As the season of masking our true identities ends and the season of giving thanks approaches, I thought I'd get a head start for all of the things I'm so fucking grateful for this year. I usually start and end my days with gratitude, but thought I'd go a little extra for this season that's …
One of the biggest lessons I've been learning about post divorce is the lesson on boundaries. I guess I've still got lots to learn because the Universe keeps presenting me with opportunities to enforce them over and over again. First off, let me preface this article by acknowledging that previous to my divorce, I had …
Yesterday, a friend approached me with a dilemma that one of her friends is having: she is in a marriage where her husband is an alcoholic and abuses her emotionally, mentally, and financially. He has rage issues and will yell at her and accuse her of things she never did (cheat on him) and call …
I put my girls in therapy shortly after my separation. I wanted them to get the most emotional support possible in the hardest time of their lives. It's a great time for them to play and decompress and talk about their big feelings. Since their sessions are directly after school, their therapist offers them some …
Recently, I was at the Korean market with my mom. As we were walking, I could see this Korean grandma rushing up from behind us with her full cart. Even with people in front of her, she didn't slow down, which caused her to run her cart into my mom. What happened next confused and …
I had dinner with my parents last night, sans kids since it's their dad's weekend. My parents and I have dinner regularly so I didn't think this one would be anything out of the ordinary. My parents and I have a fairly good relationship- we have great rapport, I know when to stop talking to …
I think I've inspired my mother, y'all. A friend of hers is visiting from out of town and the three of us were drinking wine the other night and chatting. You know, girl time. We were talking about my divorce since this was news to her friend. It was a very nice, open discussion and …
I attempted mediation a couple of days ago (our second time around). I had been mentally preparing for it for a week by going to a therapy session and by putting out positive energy regarding it. On the way to my attorney's office that morning, I practiced a 20 minute meditation on the commute (eyes …
I used to have this idea that perfectionism meant you have to be organized, have a clean house and work space, have your life and your family's life scheduled out, and have a great wardrobe to top it all off. I have friends like this and I would tell myself, "wow, she's so on top …